Comments on: Living with regrets http://www.bravaauthors.com/blog/2010/05/17/living-with-regrets/ Group author website offers new books, excerpts, biographies, and appearance schedules. Tue, 22 May 2012 21:06:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Beth Williamson http://www.bravaauthors.com/blog/2010/05/17/living-with-regrets/comment-page-1/#comment-9223 Beth Williamson Tue, 18 May 2010 13:45:59 +0000 http://www.bravaauthors.com/?p=3090#comment-9223 Abbi - yep, me too! I was in my late thirties before I got published. Sometimes I see these young, fresh-faced novelists who are ready to conquer the world and I envy them. I wish I'd done the same 20 years ago! Abbi – yep, me too! I was in my late thirties before I got published. Sometimes I see these young, fresh-faced novelists who are ready to conquer the world and I envy them. I wish I’d done the same 20 years ago!

]]> By: Abbi Cantrell http://www.bravaauthors.com/blog/2010/05/17/living-with-regrets/comment-page-1/#comment-9222 Abbi Cantrell Tue, 18 May 2010 13:31:59 +0000 http://www.bravaauthors.com/?p=3090#comment-9222 Beth, When I made the college decision, I chose not to follow my BF at that time to U of Georgia. I went to U of Wisconsin instead. If I had followed him, I guess I'd would've stayed in Georgia to finish college, but moved on when I graduated. Our relationship would not have lasted. Your post made me ask: Are there decisions I've made I wish I could change? The only one I could come up with was that I started writing sooner! Abbi Beth,

When I made the college decision, I chose not to follow my BF at that time to U of Georgia. I went to U of Wisconsin instead. If I had followed him, I guess I’d would’ve stayed in Georgia to finish college, but moved on when I graduated. Our relationship would not have lasted.

Your post made me ask: Are there decisions I’ve made I wish I could change? The only one I could come up with was that I started writing sooner!

Abbi

]]> By: Beth Williamson http://www.bravaauthors.com/blog/2010/05/17/living-with-regrets/comment-page-1/#comment-9210 Beth Williamson Tue, 18 May 2010 00:01:51 +0000 http://www.bravaauthors.com/?p=3090#comment-9210 It's interesting, isn't it? That what if... thought that swirls round and round. I think it's true - every choice we make brings us to where we are today. There are so many gifts we have, I cannot possibly regret my choices (even the hideously bad ones) because they brought me those gifts. And that includes my incredible kids and my writing career. Yep, can't regret a thing. It’s interesting, isn’t it? That what if… thought that swirls round and round. I think it’s true – every choice we make brings us to where we are today. There are so many gifts we have, I cannot possibly regret my choices (even the hideously bad ones) because they brought me those gifts.
And that includes my incredible kids and my writing career. Yep, can’t regret a thing.

]]> By: Fedora http://www.bravaauthors.com/blog/2010/05/17/living-with-regrets/comment-page-1/#comment-9208 Fedora Mon, 17 May 2010 20:39:05 +0000 http://www.bravaauthors.com/?p=3090#comment-9208 For the most part, I try to avoid having these sessions to avoid making myself crazy, but it's definitely pretty fascinating to think how much your life can hinge on a single decision. Sort of like that movie, Sliding Doors, I think? Mostly I think that I'm a product today of all the choices I made before, and I want to look at the whole picture as much as I can :) For the most part, I try to avoid having these sessions to avoid making myself crazy, but it’s definitely pretty fascinating to think how much your life can hinge on a single decision. Sort of like that movie, Sliding Doors, I think?

Mostly I think that I’m a product today of all the choices I made before, and I want to look at the whole picture as much as I can :)

]]> By: Eileen Andrews http://www.bravaauthors.com/blog/2010/05/17/living-with-regrets/comment-page-1/#comment-9206 Eileen Andrews Mon, 17 May 2010 17:37:39 +0000 http://www.bravaauthors.com/?p=3090#comment-9206 Part of me sometimes regrets moving out to the east coast for graduate school. My parents had moved out east a year before I was accepted; inside I know I only applied to graduate schools here because my parents were nearby. I left a man I was in love with out west...and think about him often. But then when I think of it, about allowing myself to feel regret, I get angry. Being here allowed me to be with my father during the last painful year of his life. It's allowing me to care for my mother. And I met my husband here. So though I may feel regret, I don't know if I'd change it. If I stayed out west, I'd eventually regret not coming east and suffer the same feelings. Part of me sometimes regrets moving out to the east coast for graduate school. My parents had moved out east a year before I was accepted; inside I know I only applied to graduate schools here because my parents were nearby. I left a man I was in love with out west…and think about him often.
But then when I think of it, about allowing myself to feel regret, I get angry. Being here allowed me to be with my father during the last painful year of his life. It’s allowing me to care for my mother. And I met my husband here.
So though I may feel regret, I don’t know if I’d change it. If I stayed out west, I’d eventually regret not coming east and suffer the same feelings.

]]> By: Beth Williamson http://www.bravaauthors.com/blog/2010/05/17/living-with-regrets/comment-page-1/#comment-9205 Beth Williamson Mon, 17 May 2010 16:58:17 +0000 http://www.bravaauthors.com/?p=3090#comment-9205 Jinky ~ Oh yeah, I know the feeling well. I look back and think how smart I thought I was and realize I didn't know my a** from a hole in the ground. Quite mind-bending to consider who you would be without those decisions. Jinky ~ Oh yeah, I know the feeling well. I look back and think how smart I thought I was and realize I didn’t know my a** from a hole in the ground.

Quite mind-bending to consider who you would be without those decisions.

]]> By: Jinky http://www.bravaauthors.com/blog/2010/05/17/living-with-regrets/comment-page-1/#comment-9204 Jinky Mon, 17 May 2010 14:33:35 +0000 http://www.bravaauthors.com/?p=3090#comment-9204 My biggest thing lately isn't regret so much as "I wish I had known then what I know now." There have been a few really big game-changers in my life these past few years, and if I had known then what I know now (like which people were toxic and which ones weren't, for example), maybe things would've turned out differently. Or maybe not. There's no way to know for sure. One thing I do know is that there are things in my life now that I wouldn't part with for anything, and if I could alter the course of history, I don't think I would, because those things would be gone if I did. Mind-bending. My biggest thing lately isn’t regret so much as “I wish I had known then what I know now.” There have been a few really big game-changers in my life these past few years, and if I had known then what I know now (like which people were toxic and which ones weren’t, for example), maybe things would’ve turned out differently.

Or maybe not. There’s no way to know for sure.

One thing I do know is that there are things in my life now that I wouldn’t part with for anything, and if I could alter the course of history, I don’t think I would, because those things would be gone if I did.

Mind-bending.

]]> By: Beth Williamson / Emma Lang » Blog Archive » Brava girl http://www.bravaauthors.com/blog/2010/05/17/living-with-regrets/comment-page-1/#comment-9201 Beth Williamson / Emma Lang » Blog Archive » Brava girl Mon, 17 May 2010 12:45:25 +0000 http://www.bravaauthors.com/?p=3090#comment-9201 [...] blogging over at the Brava author’s site today, talking about regrets (started this discussion on the Wicked Writers loop) and what would [...] [...] blogging over at the Brava author’s site today, talking about regrets (started this discussion on the Wicked Writers loop) and what would [...]

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